When To Not Get Your Ex Back Is Wise

It is wise to not  get your ex back if you have been in a abusive relationship.  It does not matter if  it is physical abuse or verbal. Both forms are unhealthy for you. You may think if you get back with your ex ” this time will be different”. History says, no it won’t. Sometimes it is best to go and not look back. There are people waiting to help you here help hotline.

In many relationships the person that has been abused will leave and then come back.  This is common due to the mental state of the abused partner.

If you are the person being abused you may be afraid not to to return to the abusive relationship.  You also might feel alone, that you have no other choice but to return.  This is very common and not very easy to spot, especially with verbal abuse.

When you do break up and get away from a unhealthy relationship  your abusive ex will try everything to get back with you. They don’t know how to treat a good thing (you) but don’t want to lose it. You will also find this in many cases, your ex (abuser) will try to find any way to get you to come back to them. Even lying to themselves and you that they have changed.

With most relationships the abusing partner is also very controlling.  They will try to exercise this control to get you to come back.  If you do get back with your ex for a week or month it is all good. Then slowly but surely the old behavior starts up again. You should stop it and get on with your life. This is why if you have gotten free it is wise not to get back with your ex.

If you don’t know where to turn there are domestic violence hotlines and abuse centers to help you but they don’t do much good if you are too afraid to call or go to the centers for help.

Why do abused partners get back together with ex abusive partners? There are many reasons. But the reality is only they know the answer for sure. It is difficult to be aware of the number of women and men that are in abusive relationships. So many are being physically, mentally and verbally abused at the very moment you are reading this. The good thing is there are also many that are escaping these relationships.

That is right. Women can be abusive as well as men. In fact women abuse men all the time. Usually a man will suffer harmful verbal abuse from a woman even though it can be physical as well. A womans tongue can damage a man quicker than anything .
You deserve the best.

If you have had the courage to leave a relationship that is abusive, wonderful. Go to this link for help http://www.ndvh.org/ you are not alone. Now as difficult as it is, be strong and do everything within your power to not get your ex back.